My dear,
You think yourself bad because you’re not helping your loved ones in need. But I call you good, for you’re not helping them with things they can do themselves.
See! All they ask of you is of things they can in all power acquire themselves. Things they can do themselves if they put their mind to it.
My dear, you are not the worst.
The worst thing you can do for those you love is the things they could and should do for themselves.
Falsely yours,
Abraham Lincoln